Children are a wonderful gift from God.
They are a blessing which cannot be replaced - children bring joy, laughter and peace into the family.
Without a child a couple sometimes does not have anything to talk about and life feels empty.
The child cements the relationship not only for the two, but you will find a wife without kids is usually ridiculed by the husband's family and also by society.
When couples experience a downhill in their relationship and decide to part ways they are usually brought back together by the child.
Each one of them would want to be with the child and would do anything not to hurt the child thus mend their differences.
Some cultures even have barren wives packing because they need an heir and would rather have someone who can bear children even if the couple doesn't love each other.
When you have children you feel whole regardless of whether you are a man or woman.
I have my young sister who has had three miscarriages but fortunately now she is 8 months pregnant after having a stitch to her cervical opening.
Miscarriage or even infertility is so unbearably painful not only for the sufferer but also the loved ones.
One keeps trying in order to be accepted, have own children and also to feel complete.
When you have children you know you will always have someone to talk to, someone to rely on, someone who is trustworthy or someone to laugh with.
Waiting for your loved one to come back from work, a journey or college would not be that lonely because there will be your child to keep you company.
Some people love to have their own children but cannot due to infertility or have left it too late and are now in their 40s like me which is considered a high risk age.
Some cannot conceive because they have tubal obstruction, ovarian cysts, hormonal imbalances or even due to endometriosis.
Whatever cause of infertility is the feeling you get is the same, frustration, anger, disappointment, agony, devastated and worthlessness.
Moreover your relationship will feel the strain you start feeling all edgy, moody, irritable and short-tempered.
Many times such people try a lot of methods to conceive including visiting the sangomas (witch doctors), medicines/drugs that they hear about from friends and doctors or even surgery.
Some of these may not yield any positive results or may result in death or even cause irreversible adverse side effects.
One needs to be extra careful on which method to choose just because one method worked for someone does not mean it will work for you.
A thorough investigation is necessary than trial and error which will have you even more frustrated.
To avoid frustration and anger some couples end up considering adoption or even donor eggs/sperms.
As a couple you need to be supportive of each other and not put the blame on the other to remove the tension and stress that one might be feeling.
There are other times when one partner blames the other especially men yet the problem is with them , the bottom line work through the problem together until the root cause is found and solved.
You may end up not getting pregnant because you are trying too hard, relax and let nature take its course.
Some answers to infertility may lie in hormonal balancing, when there is a balance of hormones in the body, sex life also tends to improve and you would be a lot calmer which may increase your chances of conceiving.
Food rich in Omega 3 fatty acids like walnuts, almonds and cashew nuts help maintain hormonal balance.
Nutrition also plays a part, it is important for everyone to be aware of fertility foods like food rich in vitamin C especially citrus fruit, food high in calcium, vitamin B6 and folic acid and not forgetting water.
Some foods like seafood, processed food e.
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sugar, refined flour, sweets and junk food can decrease your chances of conceiving so you need to reduce their intake.
When ovarian cysts are the problem it is better to remove at the earliest sign as they grow and will become uncomfortable and painful.
Tubal obstruction will also need surgery and you may find that after that you conceive normally.
Some other solutions to infertility maybe infertility drugs, de-stressing or taking note of your fertile period or simply enjoy sex without thinking of making a baby in the process.
You may even opt to use 100% natural medicines which may help clear a lot more other problems that you may have and reduce the chances of side effects.
One may even conceive after detoxifying.
Most of the time when I detoxify I feel happier, freer, calmer and more energized simply because I would have eliminated harmful toxins from my body.
Some of what I mentioned may increase your chances of getting pregnant but if the real cause of infertility is not dealt with the problem persists.
What is important for you is to realize that infertility is a sign that something is wrong within you, within your system, just like a headache is a sign for some illness in you.
Do not ignore it and risk ruining your marriage, relationship or happiness.
It may lead to much worse diseases or even your death which you could have prevented.
You are not going to fall into the trap and say it is God's will.
God wants us to multiply and will not WILL anyone into not having a baby.
Solve your problem today and receive a blessing through child bearing.
Fill your home with joy and love today.
Do not procrastinate.