You Can Really Push My Buttons!
It is not uncommon to hear someone say, "He really knows how to push my buttons," or "I'm just yanking your chain.
" The implication being that we actually have buttons and chains and that these devices are available for others to push, pull and yank at will.
What exactly do people mean when they utter this insanity? How will believing that you have buttons and chains or any other unexplainable, antithetical interference to improved emotional intelligence help you regain your senses? Once people find out that you believe (on some basic level) that you have bells, horns, buttons, whistles and chains, they will be forever reaching, grabbing, pushing and pulling them.
And you will be forever behaving as if they were doing that.
This imaginative process (which is precisely what it is) alone is enough to inhibit or even prohibit EI improvement.
For that reason, we will have to dismantle this dangerous button.
Stomp the life right out of it.
Remove the batteries, snip the wires.
Free yourself of your buttons! First we have to find them.
For the benefit of moving your emotional intelligence into the realm of improvement, let's begin by simply establishing one simple fact: YOU HAVE NO BUTTON, CHAINS, BELLS WHISTLES OR HORNS! (If you do, you should see a mechanic - or join the circus.
) Your emotions are your thoughts.
When you think, you feel.
If you think that something is horrible, awful or that you cannot stand it, you will feel that way.
Locate your thought and you will find what you fondly refer to as your button.
Know this may lead you to believe that only you control your emotions, because only you control your thoughts.
Once your thoughts are under your control, your emotions will also be.
Then, when people reach for your button, they won't find one.
Of course if you believe you have chains and buttons, you will behave as if you do.
You will be forever explaining away your emotional problems by attributing them to these imaginary devices.
You can believe anything is true about yourself.
You can believe you know Jesus, that you are ugly, important, too fat, look like a super model, unimportant, depressed, a genius or a nitwit.
If you believe it, you will behave as if it were true.
You can believe you have bells and whistles, too.
Anything is possible within the confines of your own skull.
Nothing can bring you better happiness than yourself.
" The implication being that we actually have buttons and chains and that these devices are available for others to push, pull and yank at will.
What exactly do people mean when they utter this insanity? How will believing that you have buttons and chains or any other unexplainable, antithetical interference to improved emotional intelligence help you regain your senses? Once people find out that you believe (on some basic level) that you have bells, horns, buttons, whistles and chains, they will be forever reaching, grabbing, pushing and pulling them.
And you will be forever behaving as if they were doing that.
This imaginative process (which is precisely what it is) alone is enough to inhibit or even prohibit EI improvement.
For that reason, we will have to dismantle this dangerous button.
Stomp the life right out of it.
Remove the batteries, snip the wires.
Free yourself of your buttons! First we have to find them.
For the benefit of moving your emotional intelligence into the realm of improvement, let's begin by simply establishing one simple fact: YOU HAVE NO BUTTON, CHAINS, BELLS WHISTLES OR HORNS! (If you do, you should see a mechanic - or join the circus.
) Your emotions are your thoughts.
When you think, you feel.
If you think that something is horrible, awful or that you cannot stand it, you will feel that way.
Locate your thought and you will find what you fondly refer to as your button.
Know this may lead you to believe that only you control your emotions, because only you control your thoughts.
Once your thoughts are under your control, your emotions will also be.
Then, when people reach for your button, they won't find one.
Of course if you believe you have chains and buttons, you will behave as if you do.
You will be forever explaining away your emotional problems by attributing them to these imaginary devices.
You can believe anything is true about yourself.
You can believe you know Jesus, that you are ugly, important, too fat, look like a super model, unimportant, depressed, a genius or a nitwit.
If you believe it, you will behave as if it were true.
You can believe you have bells and whistles, too.
Anything is possible within the confines of your own skull.
Nothing can bring you better happiness than yourself.
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