If you don't look after yourself, you cannot be any good for anyone else.
If you ignore your own needs and place other's needs before your own, then you will implode.
If you work on yourself, build a solid foundation and know who you are and what you need, then you can help others without detracting from your own life.
- Make sure you are as strong as you can be.
- Make sure you are aware of your strengths and limitations.
- Make sure you have confronted and dealt with your own issues before worrying about other people's.
Just because your religion pushes the Good Samaritan down your throat does not mean you have to enact a fairytale in order to be a good person - make sure to be good to yourself first, and then follow that with being good to others.
Being selfish is a good thing...
I do not mean that you should be selfish and rude, I mean you should make sure to work on yourself first and foremost.
- A candle gives off heat and light, but it does so by taking the oxygen around it first.
- Make sure to take enough oxygen for yourself in order that you can have a positive effect on the area around you.
This is a simple, short and sharp message that encourages you to look out for your own needs before trying to appease the needs of others - if we all learnt to be self-sufficient we would not be so weak and reliant upon others.
Get it? Good.
Guy Blews