It doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman, if you suffer from incontinence it may make you reluctant to be intimate with your mate.
Excluding this physical part of a relationship can be devastating to both partners but it doesn't have to be that way.
Talking openly about incontinence is often difficult for people to discuss with their doctors much less their partners.
You're embarrassed and you fear having an "accident" at an inappropriate time.
But being open about the condition is the only way you are going to get over your reluctance to have a love life.
Your partner has to be open as well.
He or she may have concerns about hurting you or causing you discomfort and these issues have to be cleared up.
Clearly honest communication is the most effective solution to the problem.
There are of course thing you can do to lessen the chance of a leakage of urine.
Try to limit the amount of fluids that you take in three hours before you go to bed.
Be sure to empty your bladder just before going to bed.
Don't consume alcohol or caffeine for at least three hours before retiring as these are natural diuretics.
Following these three tips will minimize the amount of urine in your bladder and thereby limit the possibility of an accident.
Incontinence and intimacy don't have to be mutually exclusive.
If you're still uncomfortable about having relations visit your doctor and get his or her opinions as to what to do.
Obviously there are treatments for incontinence and in many cases not only is the condition managed but cured as well.
Your doctor will be able to diagnose the type of incontinence that you have and then recommend a therapy.
Whatever route you take, don't end your intimate relationship with your partner.
Don't alter the quality of your life over incontinence.