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Put your Soul...
Think of many issues that arise in your life.
When you just rewind your memory and see them it's like watching a movie! How funny you have reacted in situations.
We always think that certain things could have been handled in a much better way after we cross those situations.
Why, are we not able to handle the situation and provide the best solution to all the circumstances that we come cross, we always feel worried about whether this situation could have been handled the other way.
When you think about it, you get your answer.
It is all that, we don't put our full efforts to get things done the way it has to be, think of many world leaders who have handled the situations the best way it has to be and got the right things done the right way it has to be dealt with.
It is all nothing but putting the full efforts to get it done the way.
Likewise taking decisions the right way also plays a major role.
Consider Mahatma Gandhi, who used to take days even to arrive at a decision.
Why not us? Take enough time to arrive at the best decision.
Many of us run behind time.
Instead make the time move the way it has to.
Is it possible in all cases? I do accept that it is tough; at this instance my mind whispers IBM's thought ("Nothing is impossible").
Instead you have it done your way by concentrating more at the point of instance.
That is to put your sole on it fully to arrive at a decision.
Don't ever get influenced by peoples suggestions, instead do listen to them, put out a list of questions that you feel like is necessary.
Review them again and again till you have a feel like you have listed out all the questions.
Once it is done, start answering them immediately, interpret the suggestions that were passed on by others and try analyzing things whether there suggestions could give you a solution.
Raise a question again.
I DO ACCEPT it is TOUGH to practice it on all situations.
But I am sure that you could do it if you stay away from the heat of the situation.
Yes, we do very often go into the situations when things turn bad, we start brooding and don't come out of it.
That is our problem.
Just for a second, under the heat! Pause it and come out of it.
You get cleared with things.
It is something like sitting inside a closed room which has several doors.
Very simple, you just need to concentrate for a second.
Why are we not able to come out of it, it is nothing but we don't put our full thought on to it to do a job.
Many suffer from such issues; even I have faced such issues several times.
I used to walk with my friend on every Sunday and we used to discuss about several things (Business, spiritual, love, etc.
, what not?) then at the end we used to come out with a solution.
We used to question them again.
He is really a great guy to be with; even to start scribbling such things, he has been a reason.
The solution to many issues that we come across is all because we don't live the present moment 100%, so how about taking decisions.
Yes it is in my first answer, think if you can put your sole to a job 100% and get it done; it automatically means that we do analyze things under all aspects.
Yes we do need to come out of the situation to analyze to find out the reason behind the cause.
I could illustrate this situation in a much better way! One of my friend who was working on a different vertical (department) had a issue with his code that he wrote; he tried out several options and was not able to find out a situation.
He just emailed the issue and came to my Bay (work area)? for help.
I just went across the code and was very easily able to find out the issue; he even laughed when he saw the mistake that he had committed; even we would have faced such issues on many times.
But how was I able to handle it in minutes.
Why was he not able to? It is simple; I was not brooding about that issue.
Instead when he got the issue, his mind is set only with confusion; brooding on what could be the cause.
Instead if he could have come out of it for a second and then look into it, he himself will start laughing at the mistake that he did.
Since I was away from the heat I could see it clearly, we loose focus and see only the problem and not the solution.
Might be just one step away from the problem, but we donno it is there, because we could not see the solution due to heat.
Be Cool Buddy 2.
Please Listen It happens very often in our personal life.
We very often go for a helping hand to handle the heat that we are facing (might a misunderstanding issue with your spouse, children, mom, relatives etc,).
we immediately ask for your friend to solve the issue, I was once there to solve an issue between my friend and his spouse, they both are well known to me.
There were some issues that arouse between them, all of a sudden things turned wrong and she decided not seeing him; the issue lasted for a week and I went to each of them separately and spoke about the major reason behind the issue, why can't we solve our issues ourselves.
Why is it not possible? Yes it is, but we often don't do that, because we loose focus, we don't come out of the issue, secondly we don't often listen to others; when issues arise we stop listening them since we have created a wrong image about them.
When problems arise; and we start disliking the person; think for a second about the person and his good qualities, and the wonderful days that you would have spared with him or her.
Such pleasant thoughts will make you feel more comfortable and the heat gets reduced, you will not start disliking a person soon; you will start listening to them.
You will instead start thinking the other way, what would have been the cause for such a problem? Why did he/she react such way? Am I a tool for the counter part to react such way? Such questions could solve the issue.
Ask yourself whether you were right? Be truthful to your questions? Answer it Once you answer all your questions; you are done with it and you are free from all the issues.
One thing that we might need to do is, honestly question ourselves.
J We don't do that.
There are people who don't come out of the issues and they remain unsolvable.
Is that your problem, no, if he/she remains unsolvable? And you are not wrong, don't worry, "it is not your problem".
Time will heal things.
They need time.
They will come back to you one day.
Be patient, accept them when they are back.
As we know "To error is human, to forgive is Divine.
" As a summary for this chapter; I suggest you to listen to the person quietly with whom you have the issue; let them utter all the words that they are about to say; let them finish it, start posting them with situations for the points they have suggested; present them coolly and slowly so that they don't get hurt.
See if things work out; understand that we might not be right always; after all we are human.
If the suggestions they give seems good, thank them.
After analyzing the points; if you feel that your suggestions will be worth it, then start slowly explaining them about your ideas.
Ask them, whether this will cause issues, ask them to raise questions for your suggestions.
Things will go fine.
Only thing that we need is patience to listen to their words.
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Be truthful The one thing that we need to learn is, be truthful, be truthful to those who are with you.
Create a high level of confidence and belief on you.
Never play a dual role.
As we all know, that we all have two impressions about a person whom we move with; why do we need it? It always leads to issues.
If something goes wrong our second mind will immediately start thinking about the person, then our second thought will occupy the entire space and will start brooding.
If you feel like, the person is trying to convey something; there is nothing wrong in asking the person.
Also be truthful to relationship with the person, keeping something wrong in mind and moving with the person is not justice that you are doing to yourself.
Always be single minded.
Never have two ideologies.
4: Life- Live it! We all have one life to live; so live it.
Be a better human in all aspects.
1.
Be a Best Son 2.
Be a Best Student 3.
Be a Best Employee 4.
Be a Best Spouse, Father etc.
, How can I be the Best in all, why not? Yes, Life is to live it; so live it with happiness.