So many of us have all sorts of perceived ideas about our physical body and it's imperfections.
When we are looking to call in our beloved and soul mate, for most of us that is going to mean having a physical relationship.
Therefore, we want to start to prepare our body to be a home for our beloved.
That does not necessarily mean that we run off to try to lose 30 pounds or scheduling some cosmetic surgery.
Instead we want to begin to cultivate a life-affirming and empowering relationship with our physical self, despite the perceived imperfections and flaws.
We can activate our own unique magnetic radiance by the way that we relate to and perceive our physical selves.
It is hugely attractive and magnetic when we are truly at home and comfortable in our body.
The beauty and energy we carry in our bodies is so much bigger than these perceived flaws - a scar here, a spot there, a patch of cellulite here, some extra fat there.
We can actually start to fully accept and even love these quirky things about ourselves, embracing and welcoming them as part of the package that we come in.
Step-by-Step Practice for transforming your relationship with your body, desirability and attractiveness: 1.
Connect with the feeling of insecurity about your physical self, whether your insecurity is related to your age, your weight, your skin color, hair or any other perceived physical flaw.
2.
Ask yourself: What am I making this perceived imperfection mean about me and who I am? For example: "I'm not good enough," "I'm inferior to others," "There's something wrong with me.
" Notice that the part of yourself that thinks this is probably very young as the belief was most likely formed a very long time ago.
3.
Now take a step back and start to challenge the beliefs, perspectives and conclusions you have drawn about your physical self.
Begin to become connected with the actual truth about your own attractiveness and desirability.
See if you can speak this truth to yourself.
For example: "I am a beautiful, sensual, worthy and deeply lovable woman (man).
" 4.
Visualize your beloved standing in front of you, looking at you with deep desire and love.
Allow yourself to really feel their desire and love for you.
5.
Now see yourself through your beloved's eyes.
See your own attractiveness and desirability as they experience you.
See that your beloved really sees you on the deepest level.
See that they love your body because it is part of you and they so deeply love and cherish you.
6.
Coming back into your own body, imagine your beloved in front of you.
Feel the love and energy radiating from this person and receive it into your heart.
As you receive it, allow yourself to feel safe, honored and loved.
7.
Create a power statement that reflects this experience and the truth of who you are.
For example: "I am a beautiful, radiant, magnetic and feminine woman.
My beloved is absolutely lit up by me simply because I am me.
" Or "I am a powerful, magnetic and masculine man.
My beloved is absolutely lit up by me simply because I am me.
" 8.
Write down this statement, have it where you can see it and preferably memorize it.
Use it to anchor into frequently throughout the day to cut through the old beliefs.